Did your loved ones ever lie to you? Did you ever lie to your loved ones? Why people sometimes chose lie instead of telling truth? What are they feared of by telling truth in certain situations? Can love and lie live together?
Human beings are never perfect. Can we expect imperfect man to keep perfect honesty and give unconditional love? Can we claim such excuse for lie? We know majority people will fail such expectation. But through history, there were some great people who did it, by living on full honesty and giving unconditional love to all. Can we expect our loved ones to be such great spirits?
My husband lied to me last night, again. He said he would work late for some extra assignment from the court. But I found out that he was actually playing Majiang with friends, which is his favorite game. He seldom played it at workday nights. We quarreled before for his playing late on weekend nights. And recently he did not get chance to play it on weekends. So playing on a workday night and claiming to work late seemed a convenient excuse. I knew he might want to avoid any unpleasant response from me due to our history experience on this issue. Lying seemed an easier solution to any possible conflict. He did not know that lying is right the cause to real issue, or the effect of real problem.
You could not imagine how disappointed I was when I found the reality, once again. A few years ago, I might get very angry and heartbroken, and we might quarrel and fight. After years of self development in the field of love and wisdom, now I have only peace and pity. I have forgiven him without his apology or request. But my love towards him was deeply hurt. Love believes no lie, no matter for what excuse. My pity was he could have improved his respect and communication skills in this lasting issue through years. If one would not learn the lesson and grow, no one else could help.
Is this the end of our loving relationship? I don’t know yet. Thinking about all the years I have been exploring and pursuing true love, I have never given up. I first fell into love to him about 17 years ago. Through over 10 years of struggling and suffering in love, I finally gathered with him and married him. With endless exploration and growing, now I have found the unconditional love power within myself and I am blessed to live in peace and happiness most time.
Will I be happy living by my own unconditional love without sharing it with an intimate partner? I know the answer will be no. That’s why I think Marci Shimoff’s new book “Love For No Reason” is still not the full truth yet. One could create and live a life of unconditional love, but one could not experience the full meaning of happiness without sharing and growing life in a romantic love. I experienced it and knew how magic and supreme happy it could be! It’s the love beyond our imagination! If you have both the unconditional love and romantic love, you will be the God or Goddess on the earth.
So with my unconditional love, I still want the romantic love and want it more. Could I find it back with my current husband? Or it’s gone and the hope may be somewhere else? I don’t know yet. I have to keep exploring and learning, and waiting for the law of love to open the magic door for me again. I have the faith in love, no matter which way it may finally lead me. But one thing I know definitely, that love believes no lie.
My Love Recipe for 2011 Day 26 is:
- Please remember that love believes no lie, or you will risk whatever you have for not believing it.
- If you may ever try to use a convenient lie to avoid conflict, before you do it, think more about what is true love and how you could improve your communication skills to bring truth onto the table and also plant more love seeds with people especially your loved ones. Respect, trust and honesty, is the backbone of love.
P.S. I found the lyrics for “Love The Way You Lie” by Rihanna feat, Eminem. I can’t help reading them and listening to the songs again and again……Can I love your lie? It reminded me our crazy love when I loved your everything……
http://thehypefactor.com/eminem-feat-rihanna-love-the-way-you-lie/
http://thehypefactor.com/rihanna-feat-eminem-love-the-way-you-lie-part-2/
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